Personalized Wedding Vows

Personalized Wedding Vows

If the traditional cookie-cutter vows aren't for you, consider writing your own personalized wedding vows. This task is actually easier than you'd expect, since there are many guidelines and examples you can use as templates to create wedding vows that feel right for you without having to start from scratch.

What to Include In Your Wedding Vows

Begin the writing process by brainstorming ways to add a personal touch to your wedding vows. This might include:

  • Timeline: Make a timeline that highlights your relationship in the past, present, and future—describing key moments such as the first time you met, your first kiss, or the proposal. Your timeline can also include your beliefs about love before meeting your partner.
  • Promises: Your promises to your partner might include to treasure growing old together, to always see your partner with fresh eyes, to never lose the passion you feel on this special day, or to always be a source of support and comfort.
  • Quotes or scripture: If there's a Bible verse or a quote from a song or poem that you feel speaks to your heart, consider sharing this as part of your wedding vows. Quotes or scripture often work well as an introduction or closing to your vows.
  • Tasteful jokes: Jokes of any sort aren't appropriate for a formal church ceremony, but a tasteful joke can be a lovely way to show your sense of humor if you're planning a more casual wedding.

Putting It All Together

Once you've made a list of your key points, you can write out the details to create a script for your wedding vows.

For example:

  • When I was a little girl, I believed that someday I would be swept away by an enchanted prince to live happily ever after. As I grew older, that dre am faded away and I stopped believing in fairytales. In fact, I almost stopped believing in love altogether until I met you. With this ring, I give you my heart. Thank you for making all my dreams come true.
  • James, you've been my best friend since the first day of high school and I can't wait to laugh with you, cry with you, and grow old with you. Today, I'm so happy to be choosing you to be my husband. I accept you as you are, and I offer myself in return. I will love you unconditionally and without hesitation from this day forward, and all the days of my life.
  • April, I want to stand by your side and sleep in your arms. I’ll love you in good times and in bad. You're my partner, my best friend, and my equal. You make me laugh like nobody else can and I'm looking forward to all the adventures we're going to have as we grow old together.
  • “Where there is love, there is life.” Gandhi was absolutely right. Until you walked into my life, I didn't realize what I was missing. Eric, you make every day brighter with your smile, your compassion, and your unwavering faith in my ability to make all my dreams come true. I promise that together we'll build a home filled with friendship, love, laughter, and light.
  • Emily, your love is my anchor and your trust is my strength. Thank you for being by my side these past four years. Today, I chose you to be my wife. I happily accept you as you are and I humbly offer myself in return. I promise to support, encourage, inspire, and love you, for better or worse, in sickness and health, for richer or poorer, as long as we both shall live.

Practice Makes Perfect

After you've prepared your wedding vows, consider asking a friend or trusted family member for their input. Having a second opinion will help you make sure that your vows are appropriate for the ceremony, easy to understand, and not too short or too long.

Practicing will also help you perfect your delivery. When the big day arrives, it's important to speak slowly and clearly. It's fine to jot down a few key points on a notecard, but you'll want to try to memorize your vows so you can properly convey the emotion behind your words.

A Personalized Declaration of Your Love

Your wedding vows should convey the underlying emotion of your relationship, using key details of your past and your hopes for the feature to tell the story of the bond you'll share as husband and wife. You may draw inspiration for personalized wedding vow ideas from many sources, traditional and otherwise. Feel free to cut, paste, scribble, and get creative!


Written by: The Printable Wedding Team