Blended Family Wedding Program

In addition to letting guests know what to expect on your special day, wedding programs serve as a keepsake from your nuptials. If your union creates a blended family, you'll want to design a wedding program that pays tribute to the unique bond you share with all the members of your new joined family.

Ideas for Creating a Blended Family Wedding Program

Your wedding program should include the basics such as order of events, the names of the wedding party, and a listing of any special music or readings. Beyond these core elements, you have several options for personalizing your program to reflect the formation of your blended family.

Design a Special Front Cover

If you've selected a booklet style program, the front cover is a wonderful place to pay tribute to your blended family. Include a family photo and the names of the children. You could also add a special phrase or quote. For example:

  • Two families joined by love
  • Together we make one big family
  • Family is what happens when two people fall in love.
  • Blood makes you related, but loyalty makes you family.
  • “Having a place to go is a home. Having someone to love is a family. Having both is a blessing.” ~Donna Hedges
  • “When you look at your life, the greatest happinesses are family happinesses.” ~Joyce Brothers
  • “We’re all a little weird, and life’s a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.” ~Dr. Seuss

 

Introduce the Children as Special Members of the Wedding Party

A traditional wedding program includes a section that explains the role each member of the wedding party plays and their relationship to the couple. In a blended family program, you may wish to include a special individual description of each child. List their attributes and the special element they will bring to the new family or share a sweet anecdote. For example:

Ava is four years old. Her favorite things to do are draw, dance, and play outside with her puppy Max. When she first met Mark, she shyly asked him if he wanted to come to her next tea party. Julie couldn't help but smile when Mark replaced his cowboy hat with a plastic tiara and sipped tea with Mr. Wiggles, the stuffed bunny.

Carter is 13 years old. He enjoys playing the saxophone, skateboarding, and drawing cartoons for his school newspaper. He's also been teaching Julie how to play chess. Even though she still sometimes confuses the rook and the knight, she thinks Carter's an amazingly patient teacher.

Include a Special Message from the Bride and Groom

The bride and groom may wish to include a heartfelt message to their children as part of the wedding program.

Here's an example of a message the groom might write to his bride's young daughter:

Ava,

On this day when I marry your mother, I promise to love and support you as my own. I'll do my best to offer both of you a home filled with love, laughter, honesty, and respect. I do not wish to replace your father, but hope that you will someday make a special place in your hearts that is for me alone.

Mark

Here's an example of a message the bride might write to her groom's son from a past relationship:

Carter

I promise to be a good and faithful wife to your father, as well as a patient and loving mother to you. I'm looking forward to taking part in family game night, listening to you fill our home with joyful music, and having the opportunity to watch you grow into an amazing young man.

Thank you for allowing me to be a part of your family. I love you with all my heart.

Julie

Include a Message from the Children

If you have smaller children, consider letting them write their own version of the ceremony events on the back of your program. Kids are notorious for getting to the heart of the matter and their descriptions and responses might surprise and delight you.

Older kids can write dedications or include special poems. Paragraphs from children welcoming their new siblings to the family can be touching as well.

Explaining Special Ceremonies

It's quite common for couples with children from previous relationships to include special rituals that pay tribute to their blended family. For example, the bride and groom might ask their children to join them for a unity candle ceremony or present the children with special gifts after they exchange their wedding rings. You'll want to briefly explain these rituals in your wedding program.

Here's an example of how to list a unity candle ceremony in your program

Light forms the very essence of our existence, since we all possess an inner glow that represents our hopes, dreams, and aspirations. Ava and Carter will be joining Julie and Mark in the unity candle ceremony to symbolize the formation of a new family with a shining commitment to each other.

Forming New Family Bonds

Blended unions have a few more obstacles to overcome in the beginning, but the rewards are rich and meaningful. By including children in the ceremony marking the start of a new marriage, you will be forming the bonds your family will depend on for years to come.


Written by: The Printable Wedding Team