Top Wedding Don'ts

Avoid These Common Mistakes

There's a fine line between being a confident bride-to-be with a clear vision for your big day and a raging bridezilla that sends her friends and family running in the other direction. Sometimes, the stress of planning a wedding makes it hard for the bride-to-be to see exactly where that line is!

To help you keep your sanity and your relationship with your loved ones intact, we've put together a list of some of the most common wedding planning pitfalls.

Don't go overboard with the registry.

Registering for wedding gifts can be a blast, especially if you're the domestic type who has always dreamed of a beautifully decorated home with a kitchen full of fancy cooking gadgets. However, a registry that's overly elaborate is going to be perceived as greedy by your guests. Keep the size of your registry in proportion with the number of guests you're inviting. Remember to choose items at all price points, so guests with more modest budgets don't feel pressured into spending more than they can afford.

Once you've registered, remember that you shouldn't include information about your bridal registry in your wedding invitation. Can we say "tacky?" Spread the word in other ways: a separate "FYI" email, by word of mouth, or on your personal wedding website. Your guests should never feel like their only option is to purchase an item from your registry. Many people do enjoy selecting gifts on their own and you shouldn’t deny them this simple pleasure.

Don't let your fiancé fall off your radar.

If your obsession with creating an unforgettable wedding has led you to start ignoring your fiancé altogether, this is a surefire sign you're heading into bridezilla territory. He's the love of your life, so remember to take the occasional break from the wedding planning to focus on reconnecting as a couple.

As for the event itself, be respectful of your fiancé’s input. Not many guys have a burning desire to scroll through hundreds of invitations or are likely to flip if you choose daisies instead of miniature sunflowers, but grooms today really are getting more "into" weddings than in days past. If there's an element he really wants in your wedding, listen to him. It's his wedding too. You might also want to send him over to our handy Groom's Survival Guide.

Don't spend your loved ones into the poorhouse.

Your wedding doesn't need a Kardashian-sized budget to be fabulous. Accept what financial assistance your parents are willing to offer graciously, keeping in mind that it's no longer assumed that your parents are obligated to pay for your entire celebration. Do you really want your parents living with you and your new spouse because they emptied their savings paying for your dream wedding?

Speaking of finances, it's also important to be respectful of your wedding party's pocketbooks. The cost of attire and accessories, transportation, and pre-wedding festivities adds up quickly. If you know that one of your bridesmaids or groomsmen is having financial difficulties, consider stepping in and discretely offering to pay for a portion of their expenses so they can still be present to help you celebrate your union.

Don't expect to turn into Martha Stewart overnight.

DIY projects can be a great way to save money on your wedding essentials, but be realistic about what you can accomplish. Unless you went to culinary school, catering your own wedding is probably a terrible idea. Making your own wedding favors and decorations is an easier task, but can be time consuming unless you have a few eager assistants to help with the prep work.

Fortunately, printable stationery is a DIY project anyone can pull off. The Printable Wedding has coordinating save the dates, wedding invitations, RSVP cards, programs, menus, and more. Choose the template of your choice, enter your information, and print the design on high quality cardstock. You'll save a bundle and you can complete the entire project while catching up on your favorite Netflix shows!

Don't be the mean girl.

Your bridesmaids agreed to be in your wedding because they love you, so don't repay their affection by forcing them into dresses that are completely hideous and/or wrong for their body type. Yes, it's your day -- and it's your motif and color scheme. But if you're thinking of a mermaid dress for your flat-as-boards ladies, or if you're certain lime green with sherbet orange stripes will be a screaming hit, think twice. If they're true friends, your bridesmaids will never say anything. That means it’s up to you to have at least a little sensitivity to what you yourself would want as a lady-in-waiting.

It should go without saying, but keep any unkind comments about the physical appearance of your bridesmaids to yourself as you’re getting ready for the big day. It's never acceptable behavior to kick a pregnant friend out of the wedding party because she'll be "too fat" for the pictures or to demand that your cousin get her upper lip waxed and swap out her glasses for a pair of contacts. Your bridesmaids are people with real feelings, not dolls for you to dress up in pursuit of picture-perfect wedding photos.

Don't ignore your natural beauty.

There's something about the idea of walking down the aisle that tends to bring out a bride's repressed princess fantasies. But, being a princess means recognizing when less is more. For example:

  • Choose a dress that fits. Buying a dress that's too small as an incentive to lose weight is a terrible plan. If you don't reach your weight loss goal, you'll look like a stuffed sausage. It's better to get a dress that can be taken in if needed. You have enough stress as it is; don't put more on yourself this way. Know that you'll be beautiful whether you're a size 12, 10, 8 or any other number on the label.
  • Go easy on the makeup.  You may think piling on the foundation, lipstick, and eyeshadow will make you look better in pictures, but this is a look that's hard to pull off without the assistance of a very good makeup artist. Nobody wants to look like a clown on her own wedding day, particularly in moments that will be preserved forever on in your wedding album.
  • Pick a hairstyle with staying power. On the big day, you'll probably cry a little and hopefully will laugh a lot. Fancy wedding hair is great, but make sure your choice will translate into a somewhat wearable style for several hours.

Don't forget to smile.

No matter how carefully you plan, wedding mishaps are bound to happen. It might rain, your maid of honor might come down with the flu, or the ring bearer might disappear with your wedding rings when his parents aren't looking. Take a deep breath, relax, and focus on the true reason for the day. As long as you get to marry the love of your life, nothing else matters. In fact, the mishaps that seem so aggravating on the day itself are likely to become the stories your recall fondly as you celebrate your golden wedding anniversary.

Written by: The Printable Wedding Team