What to Include With Invitations
And you thought it would be as easy as sending out a piece of paper! Many brides are dismayed by what seems to be a flood of directions and etiquette involving writing, addressing and mailing their wedding invitations. We've broken it down and made it simple so you know just what to do and how to do it.
- RSVP Cards
An RSVP card is appropriate to send no matter how casual the wedding; it is not only a convenience for the recipient, but makes it easier for you to make a tally in order to give final seating arrangements to your caterer or reception hall.
- RSVP cards look best when the paper exactly matches the stock you used for the invitations. (For convenience, most couples order or print these at the same time.) Choose a matching font or one with a similar "feel" (formal; script; capital letters; etc.).
- RSVP cards are generally smaller in size than invitations and may have less decoration, such as edging or embossments.
- RSVP Card Envelopes
Envelopes for the RSVP cards are a must. It is considered good etiquette to put a stamp on each RSVP card so that the sender can simply drop the completed response in the mail. Each envelope should be self-addressed.
- Visit your local post office or go online to find "sweetheart" or other romantic style stamps in honor of your wedding; this is a nice touch and a fun pre-wedding activity!
- Reception Cards and Driving Directions
Some couples also opt for a reception card. This may or may not match the invitation and RSVP card paper; however, if it's not an exact match, choose a contrasting or complimentary color or texture.
- Driving directions are a convenience if you have guests who are unfamiliar with the area in which the reception will take place. Print these yourself on plain white paper and cut to a convenient size your guests can drop into a pocket or purse the day of the wedding.
- Tissue Paper
- A small piece of tissue is traditional to place between pieces of printed text, but it's not a necessity. At one time, handwritten ink could end up "bleeding" through the next paper layer; the tissue paper prevented this from happening. Today, it's a nicety.
- If you do use tissue paper, place it on top of the text of the wedding invitation only; too many tissues may simply add confusion as the recipient digs for the "important" information.
Arranging the Envelope Contents
Yes, there really is an order in which to place each item in the outer mailing envelope. But the premise is really pretty simple: Stuff in size order. Here's the rundown:
- On the bottom, place the invitation, print side facing up.
- Place your piece of tissue directly on top of the invitation (if you will be using tissue).
- Tuck the RSVP card under the flap of the RSVP card envelope.
- Place the RSVP card/envelope on top of the invitation.
- Place the reception card on the very top IF it is the same size as or smaller than the RSVP card and envelope. If not, place it beneath them.
Now insert the stack carefully into the outer mailing envelope so that the print will face up when the invitee opens it. That's all there is to it -- now all that's left is to wait to get your happy responses!