Common Problems Facing Engaged Couples
Marriage is a big undertaking, and many newlywed couples, especially those who have not been together very long or who have never lived together, find married life quite a change from single life. Some of the common problems facing engaged and newlywed couples involve the three "c's:"- Communication: Are you and your partner open and honest with each other? Can you successfully communicate your needs, desires and problems?
- Conflict resolution: How do you and your partner deal with the inevitable disagreements? How do you treat each other when you're both angry?
- Commitment: Are you both fully invested in a lifelong commitment? If either of you have any nagging doubts, it's better to air them now rather than later.
Who offers Premarital Counseling?
Many couples go to their minister or other religious figure for guidance; professional therapists also offer premarital counseling, and some individuals and organizations even offer classes or workshops. It's up to you whether you would prefer a private or a group experience.In addition to your religious leader (if you have one) here are a few North Carolina-based premarital counselors to get you started:
Paula Pile (Greensboro): Therapist offering individual, couple and group therapy with a focus on relationships and personal growth.
Dr. Judith Barnett (Chapel Hill): Clinical psychologist specializing in relationship issues.
Karen Barry (Clemmons): Therapist focusing on couple and family counseling who offers premarital counseling services.
Presbyterian Counseling Center (Wilmington): Counseling ministry open to the community at large regardless of religious beliefs offering various kinds of therapy including premarital counseling.
Dr. Barry Rand (Asheville): Marriage therapist specializing in couples therapy and premarital counseling.