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New Jersey Wedding Counselors

The smart trend in pre-marital preparation.


Counseling is no longer confined to couches and introspective talks about one's childhood. With books like The Hard Questions: 100 Essential Questions to Ask Before You Say I Do, by Susan Pivers, on the bestseller list, it seems many couples are looking for pearls of wisdom in some form before they walk down the aisle. The reason? Getting married is just the first step in building a solid, lifelong relationship full of loving memories! While not for everyone, pre-marital counseling can ready couples for financial, emotional and general situations that arise in marriage and planning for your wedding.

Do I Need a Wedding Counselor?

Wedding counseling is optional, of course, but can be quite helpful for some couples. If you feel like the stress of preparing for marriage is overwhelming one or both of you, are beginning to feel resentment or to place blame, counseling can be a helpful step. You want your wedding to be a light, happy affair, and you certainly don't want the pressure of getting a wedding together to put a strain on your loving relationship.

New Jersey Wedding Counselors

In New Jersey, companies like The First Dance are preparing couples for everything from decisions on invitations to finances to family-induced stresses. Individual counselors are trained to guide couples through the ups and downs of wedding planning and marriage. It is not uncommon for a bride to feel resentful that her husband-to-be seems to "not care" about the wedding invitations, or the flower arrangement in her bouquet. On the other hand, grooms may feel excluded from the process and talked about like a stand-in dummy in the planning sessions. This is not to generalize, of course, as each couple is unique. In New Jersey, one might find that their wedding planner is an excellent source of guidance.

The wedding planning process can be full of unforeseen emotional, financial and familial situations. And more modern couples are seeking out extra help to balance stressful moments that might pop up alongside the wedding bliss they look forward to.

How to Find a Counselor in New Jersey

Choosing a wedding counselor in the Garden State might consist of insurance calls, though many counselors will work out a budget right for everyone. A search in your local yellow pages or online for " [your town] NJ counseling" or "wedding preparations" will likely give you more than a few choices to investigate. As you go about choosing, consider meeting face-to-face for 15 minutes with each possible counselor. As you speak or meet with the counselor, be sure that you do not detect biases that will affect the sessions. Beyond that, the comfort level of the session will determine its outcome just as much as what is said, so be sure to take note of this in your pre-session talks.

While some couples will decide to read a book or work through the process without a counselor, most couples will agree that walking down the aisle is a big commitment for everyone involved.

Written by: Creighton Connor
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