Invited guests usually include the officiant, the wedding party and their families, and close family members. Any out of town guests who have arrived early might also be included. In some parts of Missouri, the term "dinner" means lunch and this can be a little confusing for northern folks. Since this event is usually held in the evening after a practice run of the ceremony, most experienced wedding vendors will have no problems understanding your meaning. Just make sure everyone is on the same time line. Local web searches might net more results with the term "rehearsal supper." The groom's family is traditionally responsible for the rehearsal dinner This dinner is focused around your two families having the chance to spend some time together in a relaxed atmosphere. It is also your opportunity as a couple to thank all the people who have supported you as you planned your wedding.
Rehearsal dinners can follow the wedding theme but this is not mandatory. Even if your wedding is planned around an angel theme, it is entirely appropriate to host a pizza party in your parents' backyard. This dinner is about conversation, the blending of two families and some much needed laughter amid all the wedding stress. Wedding colors don't matter and decorations are not necessary. Focus instead on offering your guests plenty of room to mingle and chat. Keep families with small children in mind and offer a place where everyone is comfortable.
If most of your guests and attendants are from out of town, consider reserving a special banquet room in a restaurant. Kansas City is famous for its steaks and barbecue, so gather your party together and head for your favorite grill. The Hill in St. Louis is known far and wide for a wonderful and delicious array of Italian restaurants. Regardless of the place you select, ask about open seating or a buffet option. Rehearsal dinners are much more relaxing and friendly if your guests are free to move about and strike up conversations. All but the most outgoing of your guests will stay strangers if they are seated at separate tables. It's fine to go fancy with elegant lobster cakes and sparkling champagne, but provide an atmosphere of comradery and fun. For two wine enthusiasts in Hermann, think about a wine tasting party, complete with finger foods and specialty cheeses. Request the duck dance song from the polka band and encourage everyone to join in the laughter.
It is perfectly fine to host this dinner in a family member's home or in a local park. Consider having the dinner catered or having food delivered. If your budget will allow, you will take the pressure off the host family to cook a spectacular meal and spend their time waiting on guests. You want both mothers to have time to tell embarrassing stories about you two as toddlers, not spend all their time making potato salad and scrubbing plates. Offer plenty of casual seating for groups to mingle.
The rehearsal dinner should be about relaxing with friends and family who have given so much in support of this new marriage. Plan your rehearsal dinner as a way to thank everyone and enjoy each other.