Don't Hide Your FeelingsThe impulse many brides and grooms feel when faced with a challenge in their relationship is to look away and assume things will get better on their own. Sometimes this works, but as a plan for resolving conflict, is has some serious flaws. Talk about what is bothering you in an open way. This person is going to be your spouse for the rest of your life, so start sharing now in a truthful manner and you will build a solid footing for the beginning of your marriage. Your family is another excellent resource. Grandparents, aunts and uncles who have been married forever can give you perspective and guidance when things get a little rocky. Years of experience can offer a long view of the problem and help you see if it is a bump in the road or a serious issue needing attention.
Your Wedding Officiant Wants to HelpIf an honest conversation or a long chat with a relative doesn't do the trick, look for some guidance from your wedding officiant. Priests, rabbis, ministers and pastors are expecting you to come to them with any issues you might be experiencing. Do not let pride or embarrassment keep you from availing yourself of these highly trained religious leaders. They have heard and seen it all and want to help you resolve your issues. Major or minor, talking things over will help you see the problem more clearly and may point you to a resolution.
Professional CounselingIf an officiant isn't available or can't help you, it may be time to look at talking with a professional counselor. Asking for professional guidance does not mean you have a huge problem or one that can't be resolved. By speaking with a professional counselor, you will be showing the maturity a married couple will need to make it through the challenges that will face them in the years ahead. Find someone who makes both of you comfortable and then speak your minds. Hiding behind a false smile or only discussing a portion of the conflict will not get you back on track. Being open and honest with each other is the cornerstone of a healthy marriage and the lessons you learn now will serve you well in the future. You can find a professional in your part of Illinois by searching the Illinois Counseling Association website. Here you will find a listing of member counselors including contact information and the city where they practice. Family & Marriage Counseling is another great state wide resource listing practitioners who specialize in marriage counseling. Full contact information as well as specialty interests are available on this site.
A wedding is a major event and the planning takes a toll on every bride and groom. The fact that every detail is not magically falling into place is not a sign of a doomed marriage. No couple has ever gone through the process of planning a wedding without a few challenges. Getting married is a big step in both your lives and learning now how to deal with challenges will save you considerable conflict in the future. Facing any problems head on and with a determined attitude is a sure sign that you have the mental clarity and emotional maturity to handle marriage.